Resilience

First let’s consider the definitions:

  1. The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties.
  2. Flexibility
  3. Elasticity
  4. Process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress. Being resilient does not mean that a person doesn’t experience difficulty or distress

When you are in a difficult situation and when a solution not even looks remotely in sight, what do you do?

Whether you take the blame on yourself ? or

Put the blame on others ? or

Blame the situation itself?

I believe that one’s self support system has to be strong enough to handle the situation, to continue what you are doing in a positive way, take the opportunity to learn skills necessary to cope with the situation, take time out to understand the reality of life and wait for the situation to change.

To think of the situations when there are Ups in life when everyone around “seems” supporting and when situations changes, even the persons who are close to you deserts might look extremely distressing.

Those who are unable to take stock of the situation often ends up in psychological counselling or psychiatric clinics. The effects become devastating and is spiralling.

It is not possible to take full control of the events in our life and everything that unfolds. Moderation is the key!

Over-indulgence and Over-expectation are the root cause of all the malaise we are facing.

Over-emphasis on money and Over-importance of achieving materialistic ends without realising the impermanence of the body and the relationships thereof – we are living in a world of ignorance without understanding our real self.

So, what is the solution?

To understand the harsh realities of this materialistic life and prepare ourselves accordingly. Meditation, yoga and diet are capable of bringing in cumulative benefits only as long as the senses and desires are brought under control and they are not aimed at achieving materialistic ends.

The real approach is cultivation of basic virtues like truthfulness, mercy, tolerance, simplicity, satisfaction, nonviolence and avoiding unnecessary talk.

Surely, working on developing these attributes not only gives the strength to face difficult situations but only provide the impetus to be resilient when situations do become better, which will.

In this regard, I would like to substantiate by quote some scriptures which provide valuable antidotes when we are to face difficult situations.

yada samharate cayam
kurmo ‘nganiva sarvasah
indriyanindriyarthebhyas
tasya prajna pratisthita

One who is able to withdraw his senses from sense objects, as the tortoise draws his limbs within the shell, is to be understood as truly situated in knowledge.

Shrimad Bhagavad Gita 2.58 (https://asitis.com/2/58.html)

nityārtidena vittena
durlabhenātma-mṛtyunā
gṛhāpatyāpta-paśubhiḥ
kā prītiḥ sādhitaiś calaiḥ

Wealth is a perpetual source of distress, it is most difficult to acquire, and it is virtual death for the soul. What satisfaction does one actually gain from his wealth? Similarly, how can one gain ultimate or permanent happiness from one’s so-called home, children, relatives and domestic animals, which are all maintained by one’s hard-earned money?

Shrimad Bhagavatam 11.3.19 (https://vedabase.io/en/library/sb/11/3/19/)

நன்றாங்கால் நல்லவாக் காண்பவர் அன்றாங்கால் 
அல்லற் படுவ தெவன்.

Nandraankaal nallavaak kaanbavar andraankaal

Allar paduva thevan.

When good things come, men view them all as gain; 
When evils come, why then should they complain?

Thirukkural 379, Chapter: Karma (http://www.thirukkural.com/2009/01/blog-post_2943.html#379)

Author: Rajini

"Knowledge is the ultimate perfection of self-realization.". (Srimad Bhagavatham 3.26.2) Trying to seek that knowledge through life experiences that leads to compassion, dispassion and ultimately satisfaction.

6 thoughts on “Resilience”

  1. Yes indeed. Really like what you say that our problems arise from over-indulgence and over-expectations. i love the way you have given us the solutions too — now praying for His Grace to implement them. Thank You! 😊

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