Conversation 037 – Motivation

Disclaimer: All conversations in the conversations series are private and the identity of the subject (Seeker 1) has been kept strictly confidential for obvious reasons, subject to be disclosed only on the discretion of the subject. Please read disclaimer for more information.


Any person, no matter how strong, talented or confident will still have their share of dark moments, moments of despair, moments of agony, moments of lowness, and moments of aching heart.

Edward Munch – The Scream (1893)

To realise everything is transient, someone has to throw some light on them on these aspects.

This conversation attempts to bring that level of comfort that needs to be given, that needs to be shared, to apprise that we are all the same and we all face similar situations.

One’s perspective of situations changes over the years but the need of the experienced to counsel the sincere, the hardworking and the talented people to handle it with poise is more important because it contributes a lot to their mental well-being!

The conversation goes like this:

Seeker 1: Can I ask you something?

Seeker 2: Sure.

Seeker 1: I am very disappointed and depressed today because of the fact that I am not developing myself. I am not gaining out on anything.

Seeker 1: I want to kill myself for these days… So much depression and frustration.

Seeker 2: Please don’t say that. You are one of the sanest and promising person I have ever known.

Seeker 2: Please take one day at a time. Say some of your favourite prayers to yourself all the time. Both good times and bad times are temporary.

Seeker 1: Nothing is clicking as per my plans.

Seeker 2: It all depends on the time…if things are making you wait…there are no options…

Seeker 2: The feelings you are currently having are really dangerous and can hurt your parents.

Seeker 2: You are so much talented and have a great attitude…you just cannot lose your heart for happenings beyond your control. I know you don’t like these kind of motivation words because you are basically self-reliant. But results do not happen in a day.

Seeker 1: People are going so far and I am here sitting idle.

Seeker 2: You are a voracious reader and you must have read about so many people who struggled in their lives to come to a position. Please do not compare with anyone. Just think how you were at the end of the day yesterday and how are you at the end of the day today. Be your own yardstick. We just don’t know what is on in others’ lives.

Seeker 1: Yes!!!! True…..

Seeker 2: Do you know 1% improvement a day is so much cumulative than 1% deterioration over 100 days?

Seeker 2: I came to the conclusion no one can understand anyone, not even oneself, but by living within one’s limitations, one can try to understand oneself…what we are…why so much trouble…what is the need etc. I am sure you are getting something I am saying.

Seeker 1: Yes for sure, I can somewhere relate things

Seeker 1: I have screwed up my life.

Seeker 2: Nobody does that. Everything is happening for some reason. We don’t know immediately but we will realise later.

Seeker 1: I don’t know where I am heading myself. My parents are much worried about me.

Seeker 2: I just want to say nothing happens when we desire it the most…and things happen when we don’t expect…

Seeker 1: Their expectation levels are so much high that I could not even imagine.

Seeker 2: They also know who you are…right…and how much hard you are trying…and sincerely…

Seeker 1: But they can’t do anything of this knowledge of what is going on around me…

Seeker 1: I feel regret of all the educational qualifications I have accomplished…

Seeker 2: If negative thoughts creep deeper and deeper…and the positive attributes gets covered, it is not possible to understand your own strengths, unless pointed out by others!

Seeker 2: You must be knowing in the epic Ramayana, when Hanuman was so down and low and lacking in confidence as to how he can cross the mighty Indian Ocean, as a messenger, Jambhavan, the advisor, the brainiest, the shrewdest reminded him of his immense strengths, after which Hanuman gained the confidence and did the seemingly impossible!

Seeker 2: I can only keep saying you are very capable and all you need is little patience and try to avoid negativity. You got to believe my words.

Seeker 2: Please believe in yourself…if you don’t believe in yourself who else will?

Seeker 2: I am not able to say anything beyond this…

In the end… did this motivational conversation really help the subject in achieving some kind of solace? I really don’t know. The subject is so far away…in fact 1000s of miles…I could not see the physical expressions…The mind is so obstinate and most often refuses to take things in…because it thinks…it tends to think things logically in a subjective (hence the term subject!) manner…evaluating the inputs it has received by past experiences…pre-conceived notions dominate, resisting change.

Only the heart can be more objective, when guided by The Lord in the Heart – the supersoul, judgements become impartial, without any duality. Heart is the place where the Lord resides, as a Supersoul next to the individual soul. Unless one gets the feeling that directs inward, one will always be subject to external unrealistic influences that causes phantom in the mind… For this one has to take the experience of the world to be no more than transient events and let things pass, one will be in peace then. It comes only be practice, introspection by consciously contemplating on the past experiences and sincerely attempting to learn from it.

Author: Rajini

"Knowledge is the ultimate perfection of self-realization.". (Srimad Bhagavatham 3.26.2) Trying to seek that knowledge through life experiences that leads to compassion, dispassion and ultimately satisfaction.

4 thoughts on “Conversation 037 – Motivation”

  1. Self motivation is the best medicine when we are in despair. The mighty sun has to hide even two or three days why even a week in the thick rainy monsoon clouds. Anyhow it is temporary. Rest is not a permanent feature, that means days are not far off to double up. Rest
    periods are the days for meditation, introspection and gain knowledge of failures. Best future is ahead because hard work, intelligence and patience never failed in the history of achievers!!! Best of luck because Lord Narayana knows what to give when in plenty!!!

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  2. Self motivation is the best medicine when we are in despair. The mighty sun has to hide even two or three days why even a week in the thick rainy monsoon clouds. Anyhow it is temporary. Rest is not a permanent feature, that means days are not far off to double up. Test periods are the days for meditation, introspection and gain knowledge of failures. Best future is ahead because hard work, intelligence and patience never failed in the history of achievers!!! Best of luck because Lord Narayana knows what to give when in plenty!!!

    Liked by 1 person

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