Birthday???

A note to myself on this day:

A birthday wish/greetings???

Another one to remind me that somehow I got born and borne into this world again hopefully not to be a burden to it and not to be born again 🙂

Listening to this song Bohemian Rhapsody by the Queen as i write this… and the lines…”sometimes I wish I have never been born at all…carry on….carry on… doesn’t really matter… doesn’t really matter…”

And the lines…”you’ve caught me in a coma
And I don’t think I wanna
Ever come back to this
World again
Kinda like it in a coma
‘Cause no one’s ever gonna
Oh make me come back to this
World again” from the song Coma by my very own Gods of music…Gun’s N Roses (Pink Floyd comes only second to me compared to these guys in terms of mental/emotional impact as i relate to each of them 🙂 ).

..I mean we are forced to come into this world again and again for some reason… sounds a bit too philosophical right and even bit of crazy? But that’s the fact and that’s the way I am 🙂

And the statement from our very own master Dr.APJ Abdul Kalam who is the force of our reckonings – – “Birthday” the only day in your life…
your mother smiles 🙂 when you cried. 😦 make sure when you leave this place you make people around you cry thinking about your accomplishments and you rejoice in that, while you say that final good bye!

I mean…These are the ideals that should make and shape the way we are during the last hour of our lives!

Of course who can forget that ultimate Stanford memorial lecture given by the great Steve Jobs as he was going through the last motions/emotions of his life!

After all these mentioned fun joy happiness health and luck in the form of birthday wishes, how long they are going to carry us and care for us through in our lives?

No one just needs to think about others evaluation about ourselves as to who we are, for only we know really who we are to a certain extent and not anyone else… and that includes me!!!

Reminds of the great poet and great points raised by Kannadasan’s lines in this regard:

“உன்னை அறிந்தால்…நீ உன்னை அறிந்தால்
உலகத்தில் போராடலாம்
உயர்ந்தாலும் தாழ்ந்தாலும்
தலை வணங்காமல் நீ வாழலாம்

(உன்னை)
மானம் பெரியது என்று வாழும் மனிதர்களை
மான் என்று சொல்வதில்லையா
தன்னை தானும் அறிந்து கொன்டு ஊருக்கும் சொல்பவர்கள்
தலைவர்கள் ஆவதில்லையா

(உன்னை)
பூமியில் நேராக வாழ்பவர் எல்லோரும்
சாமிக்கு நிகர் இல்லையா
பிறர் தேவை அறிந்து கொண்டு
வாரிக்கொடுப்பவர்கள் தெய்வத்தின் பிள்ளை இல்லையா

(உன்னை)
மாபெரும் சபையினில் நீ நடந்தால் – உனக்கு
மாலைகள் விழவேண்டும் – ஒரு
மாசு குறையாத மன்னவன் இவனென்று
போற்றிப் புகழ வேண்டும்

உன்னை அறிந்தால்…நீ உன்னை அறிந்தால்
உலகத்தில் போராடலாம்
உயர்ந்தாலும் தாழ்ந்தாலும்
தலை வணங்காமல் நீ வாழலாம் “

if you know yourself…if your know yourself…
you can fight in this world…
whether you rise up…or whether you fall down…
you can still live with your head held high! …1

Do we call those who live their life with with honour, prestige and dignity as a deer?

(There is a class of deer that will lose its life because of loss of a single hair.)

மயிர்நீப்பின் வாழாக் கவரிமான் அன்னார்
உயிர்நீப்பர் மானம் வரின். (குறள் – 969). –

Those who give up (their) life when (their) honor is at stake are like the spotted deer(kavari maan) which kills itself at the loss of (even one of) its hairs. (Thirukkural – 969).

Those who know themselves and also make other know themselves, do they not become great leaders? …2

Those who live a life of straightforwardness, aren’t they equivalent to God?
Those who give everything they possess, having known the need of others, aren’t they children of God? …3

If you walk in a big assembly, garlands should automatically fall on you!
Everyone should praise you as an “emperor” without faults! …4

if you know yourself…if your know yourself…
you can fight in this world…
whether you rise up…or whether you fall down…
you can still live with your head held high! …5

this post is dedicated to all those who have their birthdays on this day (a fellow blogger, Saania2806 in particular…)

Time consciousness!

Time plays a vital role in our day to day life. For every activity we undertake, we keep track of time. We even look for certain day and time to undertake auspicious activities. But are we actually conscious of time?

We say…Time and tide waits for no one…There is a time for everything…Everything happens according to one’s time…Even an epoch fades away in oblivion at the large extant of time.

We even sing the song “Time” by Pink Floyd whose theme is Time Consciousness.

(Please check the video for some breath-taking visualization)

Tired of lying in the sunshine staying home to watch the rain.

You are young and life is long and there is time to kill today.

And then one day you find ten years have got behind you.

No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun.

We often realise the need and show gratitude for the timely help done by well-wishers in our times of need, as expressed by the saint poet Thiruvalluvar in his Thirukural:

Chapter 11/133: Gratitude – Verse 2, Kural 102/1330

காலத்தி னாற்செய்த நன்றி சிறிதெனினும்

ஞாலத்தின் மாணப் பெரிது.

Which translates to:

A favour conferred in the time of need, though it be small (in itself), is (in value) much larger than the world.

Being time conscious is what drives a successful person. No matter how much material assets one may possess, the people assets one may possess, without time consciousness, (s)he and the group is doomed to failure in this world of deadlines. Clockwise precision is the norm in this world of cut throat competition.

This is beautifully expressed in the song from an old Tamil Movie titled “Nadodi Mannan” (1958) (The Wanderer King), directed and played the lead role (dual role in fact or double action as we call it!), by the former Chief Minister of Tamil Nadu, IndiaDr.M.G.Ramachandran (MGR).

The song is titled “Thoongathey Thambi Thoongathey” (Awaken, little brother, Awaken), penned by Pattukkottai Kalyanasundaram (April 14, 1930 – October 8, 1959!!!). I mention a relevant portion of the song below:

நல்ல பொழுதையெல்லாம் தூங்கிக் கெடுத்தவர்கள்

நாட்டைக் கெடுத்ததுடன் தானுங்கெட்டார்

சிலர் அல்லும் பகலும் தெருக்கல்லாயிருந்துவிட்டு

அதிர்ஷ்டமில்லையென்று அலட்டிக் கொண்டார்

விழித்துக் கொண்டோரெல்லாம் பிழைத்துக்கொண்டார்

உன்போல் குறட்டை விட்டோரெல்லாம் கோட்டைவிட்டார்!

போர்ப் படைதனில் தூங்கியவன் வெற்றியிழந்தான்!

உயர் பள்ளியில் தூங்கியவன் கல்வியழந்தான்!

கடைதனில் தூங்கியவன் முதல் இழந்தான்!

கொண்ட கடமையில் தூங்கியவன் புகழ் இழந்தான்!

இன்னும் பொறுப்புள்ள மனிதரின் தூக்கத்தினால்

பல பொன்னான வேலையெல்லாம் தூங்குதப்பா!”   

Which translates to:

Those who are not time conscious not only destroy the country, but also destroy themselves,

Those who remain like stones in the street all day and night, blame luck for their misfortune,

Those who are time conscious survived and thrived,

But those who are not, missed the fort!

Not being time conscious in war, one loses victory!

Not being time conscious in studies, one loses education!

Not being time conscious in business, one loses investments!

Not being time conscious in duties, one loses fame!

When people in responsible positions are not time conscious, all the important works necessary for development are getting delayed!!!

Finally I will give an example through the game of Chess that irrespective of material assets, position/status in one’s life, one still tends to lose out due to lack of time consciousness. But if one plays (works) even with limited resources and is time conscious, success is certain!

This final position says it all!

  • White has an enormous material advantage. 25-13. In terms of Chess parlance (Queen-9, Rook-5, Bishop-3, Knight-3 and Pawn-1).
  • White has a tremendous position (status) and likely to finish the opponent in a matter of seconds…

…But the end result is very different, unexpected and caught the White by big surprise!

Yes, losing to Black due to time pressure by just 1 second… the least margin possible!!!

Black played within the limitations and finally won the game but it’s of no surprise because it could sense the opponent succumb to time pressure, while being aware of the situation and playing within the time limits.

This is another example of materialistic people never achieving the real purpose of life because of their futile efforts in just gaining immense “material” , power and position throughout their lives while squandering away all the time and energy in it, not allocating sufficient of them in their  pursuits towards the higher purpose of life! i.e. finding/inquiring the reasons as to: why am I born, what is my purpose in life and what is my final destination?

Walk the Talk

Words from people of high integrity who live the way they talk and talk the way they live are of high ingenuity to people around them. In other words, we must “we must walk the talk/talk the walk” so that we do not become an object of ridicule and condemnation. If a person does not “walk the talk”, no matter how wealthy he may become, no matter how high the status he may attain in society or no matter how much respect he may command at the moment, everything will be blown to dust within the fraction of a second by the will of God or his own accumulated bad karma. There are a lot of examples in our practical life, in history, and in our scriptures that prove this point.

The rewards may seem attractive at first when one get into acquaintance with these sort of people, but when time passes and when one become a victim of their “games”, he will realise his own mistakes for falling into the trap. However, he is still not the victim because he will utilize the opportunity to correct himself by learning from mistakes and evolve into a better, a more mature and a thoughtful person.

On the other hand, the downfall is near for those who act with vindication for one’s own self-interests. They don’t realise their mistakes but the laws of nature is never kind to those who violate it. In other words, It’s like the fire that does not show benevolence when a small kid touches it or a cobra that stings when anyone crosses its path.

Again, stressing the importance of good “company” and bad “company” (we all know the word company has multiple meanings, whichever meaning one takes is apt here 🙂 ), I would like to quote two more stanzas from Moodhurai (மூதுரை) that I was mentioning yesterday.

 The stanzas are exact opposites to each other – one says the benefits gained in association with good company and the other says the harm gained in associating with bad company.

Though it is quite uncertain to predict the company one would be associated with during the course of one’s life, it is important that one understand the signs and take remedial actions accordingly to live a life of peace with moral values.

Here it is:

Stanza 8:

நல்லாரைக் காண்பதுவும் நன்றே; நலம் மிக்க

நல்லார் சொல் கேட்பதுவும் நன்றேநல்லார்

குணங்கள் உரைப்பதுவும் நன்றே

அவரோடு இணங்கி இருப்பதுவும் நன்று

Which translated to

It is always good to meet people of integrity,

It is always good to hear the choicest words spoken by people of integrity,

It is always good to talk about the deeds done by people of integrity,

and it is always good to be associated as friends, with people of integrity.

In this same stanza, the word good has been replaced with bad by the poet in the next stanza to bring out the detrimental effects of association with bad company.

Stanza 9:

தீயாரைக் காண்பதுவும் தீதே; திரு அற்ற

தீயார் சொல் கேட்பதுவும் தீதேதீயார்

குணங்கள் உரைப்பதுவும் தீதே;

அவரோடு இணங்கி இருப்பதுவும் தீது

It is always detrimental to meet people of deceit,

It is always detrimental to hear the sarcastic words spoken by people of deceit,

It is always detrimental to talk about the character of deceitful people,

and it is always detrimental to have them as friends, the people of deceit.

The same aspect is mentioned by saint poet Thiruvalluvar in his couplets known as Thirukural in:

Chapter 51/133: Selection and Confidence Verse 4 or Kural 504/1330:

குணம்நாடிக் குற்றமும் நாடி அவற்றுள்

மிகைநாடி மிக்க கொளல்

Which translates to:

We should consider a person’s good qualities as well as the person’s faults and then judge the person’s character based on which one outweighs the other.

Related Post(s):

1.       True Friends Vs Fair Weather Friends

Conversation 023 – Dealing with Toxic People

This conversation is between me(Seeker 2) and my friend(Seeker 1) on how do we deal with toxic people – the people who bring in negative reactions, negative emotions and negative energy through their dealings.

Seeker 2: They say we keep learning lessons till the last minute of our life and how true!

Seeker 1: True…Cent percent! It always puzzled me why only good people suffer…

Seeker 2: If you think it is suffering then it is suffering…it’s just the mindset…according to me it is evaluation of people in circumstances for our self-improvement. It is only between I and I!

Seeker 1: What you are saying is correct in one way. Still these days I am seeing this a lot. You do things that’s morally correct but still  hell a lot of trouble awaits you. But people indulging in all sorts of incorrect/immoral activities are leading better lives and suffer less!

Seeker 2: That’s why I said it is the mindset of people involved. Most of the time even the family is hostile to a person who lost earning capability. Where does the person go then?

Seeker 2: Inner strength and self-belief is the key in such situation. That’s why scriptures like Srimad Bhagavatham holds the key. They can have a very positive effect while dealing with adverse circumstances.

Seeker 1: “Inner strength is the key in such situation” – I agree on this.

Seeker 2: The sad thing is these things can happen to anyone. But no one realise that!

Seeker 1: But inner strength alas is not everyone’s cup of tea!

Seeker 2: When adverse things do happen, they breakdown!

Seeker 2: To be sober and not to overact when things are better is the key. Equanimity is a very good quality to cultivate!

Seeker 1: So true…

Seeker 2: A person is able to handle and tolerate adverse situations because he understands that there are lot of inner meanings the toxic people do not understand.

Seeker 2: Toxic people are highly materialistic and think just money is all in all and everything revolves around money. They acquire money by hook or crook but they do not realise there is a lot of negative karma they are accumulating by trying to inflict negative reactions among others!

Seeker 1: This is the mentality of every normal person…except for a few enlightened ones…

Seeker 2: So we have to identify and talk to only those who are sensible!

Seeker 1: yes..indeed!

Seeker 2: And for others, we have to just let them do whatever they want and just ignore their dealings, otherwise we will lose our valuable energy –  the energy we need to spend for useful pursuits!

Seeker 2: We are not going to gain or lose anything by their gimmicks!

Seeker 1: YES!

To conclude, i am reminded of this amazing couplet from the great tamil poet Thiruvalluvar:

குறள் 314:

இன்னாசெய் தாரை ஒறுத்தல் அவர்நாண

நன்னயஞ் செய்து விடல்

Couplet No.314:

Explanation:

The (proper) punishment to those who have done evil (to you), is to put them to shame by showing them kindness, in return and to forget both the evil and the good done on both sides.

P.S: Those who belong to the human being category will realise their folly otherwise even God cannot save them!

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